Why is this so hard – How fear can keep you from making decisions

stressHeadWho would have thought that it would be so difficult to plan an extended trip. By now I’m sure you’ve read many articles and blog posts telling you how easy it is to do this kind of thing. Maybe we’re the minority, but I can tell you for us this process has been far from easy.

Ange and I have been trying to nail down our trip details, and I can tell you that between our general fear of action, the overwhelming amount of options and information, trying to decide anything is next to impossible. This has caused a few arguments and a general feeling of stress. Traveling with my partner to places unknown has placed a huge burden on me to get it right. The last thing I want to do is end up in a situation where we’re unsafe and unhappy.

When you first start to think about giving it all up to travel the world, the simplicity of it takes over your perception, and it seems like everything you see, read and hear is filtered through the most beautiful and optimistic pair of glasses. It’s not until you start to plan and make decisions that things seem to lose their luster.

As part of our due diligence we looked at our government’s travel advisory site to make sure that we understood the potential risks in the various places we were looking at visiting. I’ve always believed that knowledge is power and understanding the kinds of common issues and scams you may encounter will make it easier to avoid them. Not to mention the health warnings and vaccines you should have before you travel will ensure you stay healthy. Arming yourself with information is always the best way to go, however processing and dealing with that information can be an ordeal. This information scared Angela so much that we considered aborting our trip altogether.

At this time I think we’ve managed to agree that canceling is not necessary, and that fear of the unknown is amplifying any real risk to us. Hopefully we can look back and see that we were overreacting. It’s difficult to reconcile your emotions against your logic, especially when you’re missing all the variables. This really boils down to a leap of faith. You have to have faith in yourself and in your partner. You have to believe that whatever happens, you will manage and you will get through it together.

As always we hope this helps, and we look forward to your comments below.

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